Friday, August 12, 2005

No Title "personal"

Yesterday I did something cruel: I turned down someone, lets call him “T”, for a marriage proposal. We know each other for a long time. My family met his when we moved into their House during “ghazou” since then our families got close. Me and him went to the same school since I was 2nd grade. “I think he was 5th grade or something” till high school. Then he studied in Jordan and I went to the UK. But we never parted from each other using all means of communications, I know all his girlfriends and he knows everything about me.

Yesterday I saw him very briefly! He is a pilot now and he works really hard. He is wonderful and loving. Thing is we never ever confessed love. I personally never felt it but apparently he has been like this for the fifth year this year.

Our mom’s are close friends “best friends in fact” they kinda know about T’s feelings but they think we are too young to think about marriage. He is 25 this year so its fine but I am YOUNGER LOL..

Anyway after seeing me last night he texted me and stuff and he wants his mom to come to our house and talk it with my mom “without the dads for now”.. I texted him back of how much I love his mom and respect her so I’d hate it for her to come and be turned down..

He acted normally as if I did not say anything, but I am sure what I said will guarantee me never receiving texts from him, he has dignity after all…

I lost my childhood friend forever. I still donno why I refused him!! But I am too scared to marry him.. I never thought of him like that.. damn I cant.. I surely cant.. he is more than nice but I CANTTTTTTTT…….

21 Comments:

At 9:05 AM, August 12, 2005, Blogger Purgatory said...

you did the right thing.

 
At 12:45 PM, August 12, 2005, Blogger shosho said...

Purgy: you think so?

 
At 2:16 PM, August 12, 2005, Blogger Blossom said...

Don't feel bad ..marriage is a commitment...are you ready to go through this commitment with him ?
or do you see him as a (your) husband ?

 
At 3:10 PM, August 12, 2005, Blogger Purgatory said...

of course.

 
At 3:11 PM, August 12, 2005, Blogger hibbalicious said...

exceer - maybe you where just surprised i have a friend my dad has known his father 40 years and he wanted to marry me but i couldnt and I think it was bad cos he woulda been a good husband lol

Trust your instincts if you feel that this person isnt right then dont go for it and dont feel guilty just because he is family friend this is a life commitment and marriage isnt just a game making the wrong choice based on guilt may affect you a long time.


Exceer i miss you drop me an email, i cant get into my uni email so i cant reply using your old one

miss.green.eyes@gmail.comn

 
At 7:05 PM, August 12, 2005, Blogger Puppylove said...

Hi...
I think u should go with ur instincts...but think hard...u might not have this chance again..u might never find a person who will love u like him...& i think ur lucky 4 having someone like him that wants u, & he'll be lucky 4 having u..
Why don't u try 2 get engaged 4 a while, & im not saying 2 months or 3, no no no, it should be longer...TRUST ME!!! See if u guys have chemistry, which i personally think is the MOST important thing between couples, if somebody tells u 2 get married fast, & ur not ready..simply say NO!!! always wait 4 the right moment...but always give it time...people here in kuwait have ruined other people's lives just 4 wanting them 2 get married a.s.a.p, did u know that bahrainis get married after 1-2 yrs of engagement just like the eygtians? thats why the divorce statistics r lower than ours...
All im saying is, give it time 2 see if u can fall in love & get along with each other...
u dont know? u might be suprised 2 know that he's incredible & u cant live without him...
Take care sweetie & wishing u the best..

 
At 8:59 PM, August 12, 2005, Blogger Raheel said...

you did the right thing but you should've said that both of you will still remain friends.

 
At 11:54 PM, August 12, 2005, Blogger Baroque said...

denial is not just a river in egypt.. i think u're in denial.. i think u really like him.. its just that u're not aware of it.. madree.. its ur life, u have to decide for urself.. no one is going to live it for u.. good luck ;)

 
At 4:35 AM, August 13, 2005, Blogger Al-Hanbali said...

yes, i think you did the right thing,,
remember the status of opposite sex freindships in islam

 
At 10:33 AM, August 13, 2005, Blogger Exceer said...

Purg: i really hope that i did


Blossom: i donno what i am feeling towards him, i dont wanna lose him as a friend, but arab mentality does not accept different sexes friendship!!

 
At 10:38 AM, August 13, 2005, Blogger Exceer said...

Hibba: miss you more :)
thanks for everything luvvy..


Puppy love: you know what, i agree with you, he would make a fantastic husband.. maybe i shud give him a chance!!
thanks alottt


Raheel: yeah i will call him i think. i cant leave him like this:(


Charisma: maybeeeeee, i need someone to tell me!! damn maybe i shud call doc. Fawziya LOL "i am serious"


Q8ibloger: yup i know very well dont worry.. we dont go out "if we do" without our families with us..

 
At 12:27 PM, August 13, 2005, Blogger Puppylove said...

Believe me honey, give him a chance...give the both of u a chance....& always give time....
Besides, the best couples r the ones who were great friends, & its great 2 have a husband that u can have a great friendship with & MAINTAIN the FRIENDSHIP & ROMANCE in ur life...always be creative..husbands hate dull wives...
I say go 4 it, get engaged & seem him upclose & PERSONAL!! ;)
And u guys r young & have time 4 at least 1 year of engagement...

 
At 7:05 PM, August 13, 2005, Blogger Purgatory said...

I think most disagree with what I said, except q8ibloger, but for different reasons, nevertheless I stick with what I said.

 
At 7:27 PM, August 13, 2005, Blogger Shopaholic Q8eya said...

OMG!! Few weeks in Kuwait and drama is in the air, well welcome to Kuwait.

You did the right thing. I am afraid, yes you lost a good friend.. Trust me, it is for the best. This is the worst thing that can happen in a friendship. You can never be friends again, it is very hard.

Don't worry about it, you did the right thing.

 
At 12:02 AM, August 16, 2005, Blogger Baroque said...

Lo0o0L ! How is Dr.Fowzia? i used to be addicted to her programme! God! its been ages since, i last saw it.. is is still packed with drama? :P~ Lo0l Don't call! You'll get even more confused! believe me!

 
At 12:37 PM, August 18, 2005, Blogger S.G. said...

hmm my dear May Allah be with u in ur descision.but make sure my dear..that before making any descision at ur own you garantee that u wont regret later. its easy to marry but to find someone who loves u loads is not that easy...

well dont worry..and if you like him even..its not bad to like someone...

 
At 12:41 PM, August 18, 2005, Blogger S.G. said...

and yes..if you have decided than stick to it. no regrets..and no cruelity.everyone holds the right to make a descision. gud luck lady(finallly i know ;) )

 
At 4:13 PM, August 18, 2005, Blogger Raheel said...

Exceer,
1. The most shweetest bloggy friend, I've ever had.
2. I am alive! by Celine Dion
3. Strawberry
4. F... you hate it
5. Kuwait
6. Chocolate
7. Do you crave for desserts?? --->1.

 
At 4:14 PM, August 18, 2005, Blogger Raheel said...

Exceer,
1. The most shweetest bloggy friend, I've ever had.
2. I am alive! by Celine Dion
3. Strawberry
4. F... you hate it
5. Kuwait
6. Chocolate
7. Do you crave for desserts?? --->1.

 
At 5:38 PM, August 18, 2005, Blogger PeTiTa said...

7aram 3alaich he seems like a nice guy and since you know everything about him they're won't be any suprises..think about it. If you don't want to get married now then its ok just tell him and if he really loves you he will wait for you to be ready. : ) Give it a chance

 
At 1:18 PM, August 19, 2005, Blogger Exceer said...

Goodness me, you guys are wonderful. everything you said was just perfect and really got me thinking!!

Cant thank you enough seriously:

Raheel, LOL then i was wrong ha ;)
thats really really sweet, thanksssss

 

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